EPISODE 1: LOOKING FOR LOVE
Xio, Avery, and Roan answer questions from an anxious newlywed and someone ready to enter the dating pool for the first time in a long time.
EPISODE 2: DATING MYSELF
Xio, Avery, and Roan answer questions about asexuality and desire, and what it might look like for a serial monogamist to date themselves.
EPISODE 3: GETTING BACK TO LOVE
Xio, Avery, and Roan answer questions from a questioning widow and a letter-writer whose partner emotionally disappears into her work.
EPISODE 4: KISS OFF
A self-described "never-been-kissed virgin librarian who loves romance novels" inspires Xio, Avery, and Roan's delight! And a letter-writer with a friend who's devolved into bigotry inspires their ire.
EPISODE 5: STILL THE ONE
A letter-writer's anniversary approacheth and they want to show their wife how special she is, but they're tapped out! Xio, Avery, and Roan to the rescue with a discussion of love languages.
EPISODE 6: NO "I" IN THREESOME
Xio, Avery, and Roan advise a letter-writer in a long-term polyamorous relationship who now wants to ditch one partner but keep the other. They discuss what happens when people in relationships inevitably change.
EPISODE 7: AM I OVER-ROMANTICIZING LOVE?
Xio, Avery, and Roan advise a letter-writer who fears that her romantic relationships will never measure up to her romanticized view of love. Along with special guest Becky Burrier from Buzzing About Romance Podcast and Bookcase and Coffee Blog, they also have a So What Would You Do in response to a letter on Slate.
EPISODE 8: MY MOM WON'T STOP MISGENDERING ME. HELP!
Mommy Issues Galore + Guest Kelly Reynolds from Boobies & Noobies! Roan, Xio, Avery, and Kelly answer a letter-writer whose mom keeps misgendering her and a too-over-the-top-for-fiction real-life story about finding out a woman's long-lost daughter is about to marry her son, has us talking about taboos. Content Warnings: transphobia, incest, missing children.
EPISODE 9: I'M JEALOUS MY HUSBAND MASTURBATES INSTEAD OF HAVING SEX WITH ME (PLUS ADVICE ON HOW TO WRITE ROMANCE)
With the help of New York Times bestseller Sarah MacLean, of the Fated Mates podcast, Xio Axelrod, Avery Flynn, and Roan Parrish answer a letter writer's questions about being a romance author and discuss the hard questions that come when you're jealous that your partner's masturbatory time seems to mean no sex for you.
EPISODE 10: WHEN DOES THE BANGING START?
Romance author Angelina M. Lopez joins Roan Parrish, Xio Axelrod, and Avery Flynn as they answer a letter from a listener who just wants her partner (who is amazing in almost every way) to start showing some physical affection. And what do you do when your toxic family member wants you to kick out a roommate so she can live with you instead? They have many thoughts about that one, but, yeah, they all boil down to change your locks and block her on your phone.
EPISODE 11: MY GIRLFRIEND PRETENDS SHE HAS A TALKING VAGINA. HELP!
New York Times best-selling author Talia Hibbert joins Xio Axelrod, Avery Flynn, and Roan Parrish to discuss what in the world is going on with a girlfriend who pretends she has a talking vagina, and offer advice for an asexual writer who is looking for love but keeps falling for folks who say they're OK with a non-sexual relationship but that's not really the case. Is she destined to keep living life vicariously through her characters? Is there an HEA future possible? Hell yes, you know there is.
EPISODE 12: I Came Out As Bi To My Husband, Now What?
RL Merrill joins Xio Axelrod, Avery Flynn, and Roan Parrish for the latest episode of Dear Romance Writer to advise a letter writer who just came out as bi to her husband and is considering opening up their relationship. Plus, advice for a woman with an abusive live-in boyfriend. Content warnings: sexual abuse, emotional abuse.
EPISODE 13: I Had The Best Sex Of My Life But It Wasn't With My Partner. Do I Tell Him?
BB Easton, author of 44 Chapters About Four Men which inspired Netflix's Sex/Life, joins us to help a letter writer in a committed mutually non-monogamous relationship who had the best sex of her life and now feels guilty because it wasn't with her partner. Should she tell him? Also, BB, Xio, Avery & Roan tackle a question from a man recovering from an eating disorder whose girlfriend is body shaming him. This one will make you mad. TW: Eating disorders, emotional abuse
EPISODE 14: Potential Dates Think I'm A Sex Crazed Romance Writer!
What's the most obnoxious stuff someone has said when they find out Xio, Avery and Roan write romance? We're sharing it all to help a letter writer dealing with dates how cannot get past the fact that she writes romance. Plus we ponder what to do when your mom's live-i boyfriend asks you to have his baby.
EPISODE 15:How Do I Get Over My Girlfriend's Porn Star Past?
New York Times best selling author Katee Robert joins Xio, Avery & Roan to offer advice to a letter writer who after ditching a cheating ex finds a great guy. The only problem? He never wants to have sex. Plus, what to do when you can't get over the fact that your otherwise perfect girlfriend has a past in adult films?
EPISODE 16:Prying Out The Covid In My Soul
The fantastically talented L. Penelope joins Xio, Avery and Roan as they tackle a letter from someone who is feeling so angry and broken at the state of the world that they feel like they have COVID in their soul. Plus, we talk about the myriad of red flags in a relationship where dying your hair results in isolation and the silent treatment.
EPISODE 17: COVID made us an old married couple, I want a do-over!
Licensed psychologist and ordained minister Dr Robin Smith joins Roan and Xio as they offer advice to a letter writer who wants a “relationship do-over” after moving in with their girlfriend at the beginning of the pandemic and finding themselves like an old married couple. Plus, what to do when you lose respect for your insecure partner.
EPISODE 18: Does happily ever after exist?
This week, Xio, Avery, and Roan are joined by romance writing dynamic duo Christina Lauren to respond to a letter writer who has never had a happily ever after of their own and wonders if they're real, and discuss how to balance friendship and business.
EPISODE 19: I recognize the penis!
Xio, Avery, and Roan respond to a letter-writer whose husband seeks out validation from other women online and wants to know if there's hope, and they discuss how important shared interests are in relationships.
EPISODE 20: HELP! I think my son is dating his stepbrother.
What would you do if you thought your son was dating your stepson? That's the topic this week's letter as Annabeth Albert joins Xio, Avery & Roan in a must-listen episode where they all definitely don't agree
EPISODE 21: BOOTASTIC! Halloween Edition!
It's one of Xio's, Avery's and Roan's favorite times of the year: SPOOKY SEASON! Listen in as they discuss the really important questions such as would you survive the zombie apocalypse, who is the best couple in horror and what is the best Halloween candy. And they do it all in costume!
EPISODE 22: Help Me Find A Second Chance at Love!
Avery, Roan, and Xio are joined by actress Gabrielle Miller (Corner Gas, the Good Witch). The quartet answer a letter from a divorcee who's having trouble getting back on the dating scene, and chat about the yeas and nays of tattoos.
EPISODE 23: Help! Rejection makes me feel like a total loser.
Avery, Roan, and Xio welcome New York Times bestselling author Audrey Carlan. They answer a letter from someone struggling with feelings of rejection, and chat about the best ways to set boundaries when working with a friend/partner.
EPISODE 24: Is It Wrong To Nudge My No Kid Wanting Partner Into Being A Parent?
Xio, Avery & Roan welcome author Scarlett Cole this week to discuss if nudging a partner into kids when they don't really want to be a parent is wrong and stress relieving techniques for anyone feeling overwhelmed by *waves hands in the air* all of this.
EPISODE 25: I'm Married But Cheating On Him With My Ex
Xio & Roan are back to talk about a letter writer who is married but is having an affair. "Do I follow my heart and see where things could go with him or do I stay in my marriage knowing that a huge piece of my heart is with someone else?" Plus, they dive into how social media is screwing with our ability to communicate with one another.
EPISODE 26: Child-Free Homeowners vs Judgey Friends
All she wanted was a kid-free housewarming party. What she got was a massive dose of judgement from friends. Was she wrong? Xio, Avery, Roan & guest AC Arthur dole out their advice & talk the psychological benefits of comfort food.