EPISODE 46: IT'S TIME TO CHOOSE: ME OR YOUR EX
Her boyfriend's ex is a shadow lurking in the corners of their relationship. Avery, Roan, Xio, and this week's guest author, Timothy Janovsky, discuss dragging toxic relationships into the light. Plus, the quartet weight the pros and cons of living alone vs co-habitation.
EPISODE 45: PUSSY CONTROL: WIFE GOES ON VACAY, LEAVES HIM IN CHARGE OF THE (LITERAL) CATS.
The always amazing Dylan Allen joins Xio, Avery and Roan to talk about a husband whose wife leaves him with the cats when she goes on vacay. A lot. Plus we discuss professional jealousy and forbidding kids to read certain books.
EPISODE 44: HE'S KEEPING PICS OF HIS EX? DEALBREAKER?
He has photos of his ex in his Google Drive. His girlfriend is pissed! Who's right? Who's wrong? The fabulous Kim Golden joins Xio, Roan & Avery to discuss that and the vital importance of having "Oh Honey, NO!" friends.
EPISODE 43: THROW THE WHOLE MAN OUT AND POST THAT PICTURE!
Best selling author Lexi Blake joins Xio, Roan and Avery when they discuss a letter from a woman whose husband doesn't see what the big deal is about posting her nudes on Reddit without her permission. Plus the unwritten rules of being a romance author.
EPISODE 42: HE CHEATS, NOW I'M SUPPOSED TO SLEEP WITH SOMEONE TO SAVE OUR RELATIONSHIP.
Xio, Roan and Avery are joined by author Elizabeth Hunter on this one that takes bullshittery to a whole new level. Plus survival tips for book signing season!
EPISODE 41: REAL LIFE JESSIE'S GIRL SITUATION
Author May Peterson joins Xio, Avery & Roan to offer advice for a husband who thinks his wife's BFF has a crush on her. Does he say anything? Should he stay quiet? Plus an update from a letter writer who's wife was not happy that he had joined a romance book club! In true romance fashion, it's a happy ending, y'all!
EPISODE 40: DON'T EVER ASK ME TO BABYSIT.
This week Roan, Xio, and Avery are joined by romance author Nana Malone to tackle a letter about what we owe to our family and the harrowing world of child care. They also have a lively discussion about the TikTok trend of mental health self-diagnosis.
EPISODE 39: BFF's GF Woes
Xio and special guests Susan Scott Shelley and Chantal Mer discuss relationship boundaries and what do do when you don’t like how your best friend’s partner talks to them.
EPISODE 38: Butter as lube? No thanks!
Avery, Xio, and Roan are joined by The Love Gods podcast's Tim Paige and Liam DiCosimo to answer a reader-submitted question about navigating depression and anxiety in romantic relationships. Also, Liam makes fart and lube jokes :)
EPISODE 2: DATING MYSELF
Xio, Avery, and Roan answer questions about asexuality and desire, and what it might look like for a serial monogamist to date themselves.
EPISODE 3: GETTING BACK TO LOVE
Xio, Avery, and Roan answer questions from a questioning widow and a letter-writer whose partner emotionally disappears into her work.
EPISODE 4: KISS OFF
A self-described "never-been-kissed virgin librarian who loves romance novels" inspires Xio, Avery, and Roan's delight! And a letter-writer with a friend who's devolved into bigotry inspires their ire.
EPISODE 5: STILL THE ONE
A letter-writer's anniversary approacheth and they want to show their wife how special she is, but they're tapped out! Xio, Avery, and Roan to the rescue with a discussion of love languages.
EPISODE 6: NO "I" IN THREESOME
Xio, Avery, and Roan advise a letter-writer in a long-term polyamorous relationship who now wants to ditch one partner but keep the other. They discuss what happens when people in relationships inevitably change.
EPISODE 7: AM I OVER-ROMANTICIZING LOVE?
Xio, Avery, and Roan advise a letter-writer who fears that her romantic relationships will never measure up to her romanticized view of love. Along with special guest Becky Burrier from Buzzing About Romance Podcast and Bookcase and Coffee Blog, they also have a So What Would You Do in response to a letter on Slate.
EPISODE 8: MY MOM WON'T STOP MISGENDERING ME. HELP!
Mommy Issues Galore + Guest Kelly Reynolds from Boobies & Noobies! Roan, Xio, Avery, and Kelly answer a letter-writer whose mom keeps misgendering her and a too-over-the-top-for-fiction real-life story about finding out a woman's long-lost daughter is about to marry her son, has us talking about taboos. Content Warnings: transphobia, incest, missing children.
EPISODE 9: I'M JEALOUS MY HUSBAND MASTURBATES INSTEAD OF HAVING SEX WITH ME (PLUS ADVICE ON HOW TO WRITE ROMANCE)
With the help of New York Times bestseller Sarah MacLean, of the Fated Mates podcast, Xio Axelrod, Avery Flynn, and Roan Parrish answer a letter writer's questions about being a romance author and discuss the hard questions that come when you're jealous that your partner's masturbatory time seems to mean no sex for you.
EPISODE 10: WHEN DOES THE BANGING START?
Romance author Angelina M. Lopez joins Roan Parrish, Xio Axelrod, and Avery Flynn as they answer a letter from a listener who just wants her partner (who is amazing in almost every way) to start showing some physical affection. And what do you do when your toxic family member wants you to kick out a roommate so she can live with you instead? They have many thoughts about that one, but, yeah, they all boil down to change your locks and block her on your phone.
EPISODE 11: MY GIRLFRIEND PRETENDS SHE HAS A TALKING VAGINA. HELP!
New York Times best-selling author Talia Hibbert joins Xio Axelrod, Avery Flynn, and Roan Parrish to discuss what in the world is going on with a girlfriend who pretends she has a talking vagina, and offer advice for an asexual writer who is looking for love but keeps falling for folks who say they're OK with a non-sexual relationship but that's not really the case. Is she destined to keep living life vicariously through her characters? Is there an HEA future possible? Hell yes, you know there is.
EPISODE 12: I Came Out As Bi To My Husband, Now What?
RL Merrill joins Xio Axelrod, Avery Flynn, and Roan Parrish for the latest episode of Dear Romance Writer to advise a letter writer who just came out as bi to her husband and is considering opening up their relationship. Plus, advice for a woman with an abusive live-in boyfriend. Content warnings: sexual abuse, emotional abuse.
EPISODE 13: I Had The Best Sex Of My Life But It Wasn't With My Partner. Do I Tell Him?
BB Easton, author of 44 Chapters About Four Men which inspired Netflix's Sex/Life, joins us to help a letter writer in a committed mutually non-monogamous relationship who had the best sex of her life and now feels guilty because it wasn't with her partner. Should she tell him? Also, BB, Xio, Avery & Roan tackle a question from a man recovering from an eating disorder whose girlfriend is body shaming him. This one will make you mad. TW: Eating disorders, emotional abuse
EPISODE 14: Potential Dates Think I'm A Sex Crazed Romance Writer!
What's the most obnoxious stuff someone has said when they find out Xio, Avery and Roan write romance? We're sharing it all to help a letter writer dealing with dates how cannot get past the fact that she writes romance. Plus we ponder what to do when your mom's live-i boyfriend asks you to have his baby.
EPISODE 15:How Do I Get Over My Girlfriend's Porn Star Past?
New York Times best selling author Katee Robert joins Xio, Avery & Roan to offer advice to a letter writer who after ditching a cheating ex finds a great guy. The only problem? He never wants to have sex. Plus, what to do when you can't get over the fact that your otherwise perfect girlfriend has a past in adult films?
EPISODE 16:Prying Out The Covid In My Soul
The fantastically talented L. Penelope joins Xio, Avery and Roan as they tackle a letter from someone who is feeling so angry and broken at the state of the world that they feel like they have COVID in their soul. Plus, we talk about the myriad of red flags in a relationship where dying your hair results in isolation and the silent treatment.
EPISODE 17: COVID made us an old married couple, I want a do-over!
Licensed psychologist and ordained minister Dr Robin Smith joins Roan and Xio as they offer advice to a letter writer who wants a “relationship do-over” after moving in with their girlfriend at the beginning of the pandemic and finding themselves like an old married couple. Plus, what to do when you lose respect for your insecure partner.
EPISODE 18: Does happily ever after exist?
This week, Xio, Avery, and Roan are joined by romance writing dynamic duo Christina Lauren to respond to a letter writer who has never had a happily ever after of their own and wonders if they're real, and discuss how to balance friendship and business.
EPISODE 19: I recognize the penis!
Xio, Avery, and Roan respond to a letter-writer whose husband seeks out validation from other women online and wants to know if there's hope, and they discuss how important shared interests are in relationships.
EPISODE 20: HELP! I think my son is dating his stepbrother.
What would you do if you thought your son was dating your stepson? That's the topic this week's letter as Annabeth Albert joins Xio, Avery & Roan in a must-listen episode where they all definitely don't agree
EPISODE 21: BOOTASTIC! Halloween Edition!
It's one of Xio's, Avery's and Roan's favorite times of the year: SPOOKY SEASON! Listen in as they discuss the really important questions such as would you survive the zombie apocalypse, who is the best couple in horror and what is the best Halloween candy. And they do it all in costume!
EPISODE 22: Help Me Find A Second Chance at Love!
Avery, Roan, and Xio are joined by actress Gabrielle Miller (Corner Gas, the Good Witch). The quartet answer a letter from a divorcee who's having trouble getting back on the dating scene, and chat about the yeas and nays of tattoos.
EPISODE 23: Help! Rejection makes me feel like a total loser.
Avery, Roan, and Xio welcome New York Times bestselling author Audrey Carlan. They answer a letter from someone struggling with feelings of rejection, and chat about the best ways to set boundaries when working with a friend/partner.
EPISODE 24: Is It Wrong To Nudge My No Kid Wanting Partner Into Being A Parent?
Xio, Avery & Roan welcome author Scarlett Cole this week to discuss if nudging a partner into kids when they don't really want to be a parent is wrong and stress relieving techniques for anyone feeling overwhelmed by *waves hands in the air* all of this.
EPISODE 25: I'm Married But Cheating On Him With My Ex
Xio & Roan are back to talk about a letter writer who is married but is having an affair. "Do I follow my heart and see where things could go with him or do I stay in my marriage knowing that a huge piece of my heart is with someone else?" Plus, they dive into how social media is screwing with our ability to communicate with one another.
EPISODE 26: Child-Free Homeowners vs Judgey Friends
All she wanted was a kid-free housewarming party. What she got was a massive dose of judgement from friends. Was she wrong? Xio, Avery, Roan & guest AC Arthur dole out their advice & talk the psychological benefits of comfort food.
EPISODE 27: Brilliant or Evil? Both?
Girlfriend has had enough of her live-in boyfriend's purposefully incompetence & plans the perfect revenge. Is it brilliant? Evil? Both? Xio, Avery & Roan chat it out & talk about assholes of the metaphorical kind.
EPISODE 28: Call Me Mommy...Or Maybe Not
Should I be upset my kids are calling their stepmom (my former BFF who had an affair with my husband) mom? Penny Reid joins Xio, Avery & Roan to discuss plus they chat about what success means in the publishing industry and life.
EPISODE 29: Family and Resolution: Two Things That Often Make Us Lose It
A daughter says no baby pics on social media and dad is BIG MAD. Xio, Avery & Roan discuss the joys of dealing with family at high stress gatherings & new year's resolutions in Dear Romance Writer's last episode of the year.
EPISODE 30: How to Resolve Conflict Over Chaos
A letter-writer seeks help with avoiding clutter and conflict when sharing a small space. Bestselling author, Mariah Ankenman, joins Xio and Avery to discuss.
EPISODE 31: Hey Buddy, Your Ass is Showing
Avery, Roan, and Xio are joined by author, Jayci Lee. The quartet address malicious compliance, and ponder Grindr's new profile pic parameters.
EPISODE 32: How Hard Is It to Say I'm Sorry?
Author Meghan Quinn joins Avery, Roan, and Xio to offer advice to a restless Empty Nester. Plus, what's the best way to say you're sorry?
EPISODE 33: Wife jealous of husband's romance book club.
Best selling author Naima Simone joins Xio, Avery & Roan to help a husband in a jam with his wife who is jealous of the time he spends with his romance book club. Plus, they discuss surviving the highs and lows of a writing career.
EPISODE 34: Exposure doesn't pay the bills + giveaway!
The talented and fabulous Cat Sebastian joins Xio, Avery & Roan to talk about a designer whose friend wants her to make a wedding dress for free, friend breakups and Dear Romance Writer's one year anniversary giveaway!
EPISODE 35: How Do I Tell My BFF I Want A Relationship With Him?
New York Times best seller Jennifer Probsts shares what trope best describes her meet cute with her husband and helps Xio, Avery & Roan offer advice to a letter writer who wants her longtime friend that's a boy to become her boyfriend?
EPISODE 36: Nosy Future Mother In Law Horror Story
And you think you've heard all the MIL horror stories there are. How about one who snoops through all the drawers and does not find the humor in little notes left for her to find. Plus Xio, Avery & Roan share some of the best parental advice they've gotten.
EPISODE 37: Power Exchange
What happens when your kink doesn't match up with who you want to date? Avery, Xio, and Roan discuss this and more with special guest romance author Mia Sosa!
EPISODE 1: LOOKING FOR LOVE
Xio, Avery, and Roan answer questions from an anxious newlywed and someone ready to enter the dating pool for the first time in a long time.